Fostering teenagers
Teenagers are different, everyone knows that. But by fostering teenagers you could make a huge difference to a young life before it's too late.
As well as the physical changes, there’s a big emotional shift too as they become more aware of the world and their place within it. They begin to question, rebel and strive for independence.
For many teenagers in foster care, they’re having to deal with all this, as well as their own unique anxiety, anger or sense of isolation caused by what may have been years of abuse or neglect. Whatever their past experiences though, teenagers in foster care present a very special challenge at a critical and formative stage in their lives.
As a foster parent of a teenager, your role is to help them deal with all these issues and prepare for independence and adulthood. This includes encouraging their educational and social development and the learning of practical life-skills. You’ll also make sure they keep in regular contact with their birth parents. It’s a big ask with many ups and downs, but that’s what makes the work so satisfying. Helping someone transition successfully to independence is one of the most rewarding things any foster parent can do.
Surprisingly, for all these challenges, foster parents often find they have a little extra time on their hands, because teenagers are more independent and spend a lot of time at school and with their friends.
This means that when you’re with them, the work can be quite intense. To help you, we make sure there’s plenty of professional support available.
Caring for teenagers is often fun too. Teenagers are often witty, energetic, and unlike smaller children who haven't yet learnt, teenagers can be extremely compassionate about their foster parents well being too.
Caring for teenager's full stop, can be stressful; but fostering teenagers may not be as challenging as you might imagine.
Many people rule out teenagers because they feel they can't influence the same level of change as they could for a younger child. It is true that many of their personality traits and characters will be already developed, but it's wrong to think you can't make a difference. By providing good examples of family life at such an influential time can make all the difference before a young person reaches adulthood.
Allowances for fostering teenagers
Our fostering allowance covers all that you need to care for a teenager, you'll receive regular payments and allowances for the time a teenager is in your care.
Will foster children have difficult behaviour?
Many of the children we care for have suffered trauma in their young lives due to abuse, neglect or witnessing domestic violence. Children can find it very difficult to regulate and express their emotions so instead this can come out in their behaviour. Children maybe angry and become aggressive, or can be just the opposite and be very withdrawn. Every young person is different and will behave differently. It's also worth noting that not every child presents with difficult behaviour and all of our foster parents experience these challenges differently too. What can be difficult to manage for one family will be much easier for another, which is why matching is so important to us. We provide all of our fostering families with training, to help them understand the reasons for certain types of behaviour and how to manage it. By far the most rewarding part of being a foster parent is seeing the changes a child or young person makes whilst in your care.
How does the matching process work?
We receive far more referrals for children from local authorities than we have fostering families with vacancies. In order to match a child to a family, we look at a number of things including location, age range and gender. We also look at the cultural needs of a child and a families own make up and experience. We request as much information from the local authority about the child they are looking to place, so we know as much about them as possible to ensure our foster parents can meet their needs.
Can I foster more than one child?
Yes you can. Foster parents can foster up to 3 foster placements. This can be more than 3 children if one placement is a sibling group. How many children you foster often depends on your bedroom capacity as well as your ability to care for more than one child. Foster children need a bedroom of their own, the only exception to this is same sex siblings, which can share a room if the room is large enough for two.
